Here are a few things I have come to embrace over the years. I’ve come to these conclusions by struggling with what I felt in my heart versus what I read in Scripture… when at first the two were in conflict. I now call this my “Theology Of Encouragement.”
God never allows anything into his children’s life that is anything but good in his all wise knowledge (Romans 8:28).
God is so determined to make his children like his Son he does not leave it to chance, but wills it without any possibility of failure (Romans 8:29).
Therefore, everything the Christian experiences is ultimately good, increases joy, lays up treasure in heaven, and is to be understood in these contexts (Romans 8:31-32).
I came to these conclusions over the course of 30 years and many difficulties. These are hooks on which I hang my hat. I don’t ask you to embrace them without first meditating on the Scripture and asking God to reveal Himself to you. Blessings.