If the answer is yes to any or all those questions, consider this pasasge of Scripture and a few comments that follow.
It is written in Romans 8:26-27, “Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. 27 And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.” ESV
Notice first that we are weak. Weak in life, knowledge, understanding, strength, and spiritual power. But The Spirit HELPS us when we are weak. His primary help comes in relation to prayer. The reason He helps us in regards to prayer is because we are ignorant about what we should pray. It is at that exact point that The Holy Spirit prays for us and on our behalf.
Notice that when The Spirit prays, His prayers are passionate and dead center of God’s will for us in whatever situation we are in.
Application. When you don’t know what or how to pray… pray this: “God, I don’t know what to pray. So I affirm and support whatever Your Spirit is praying to You on my behalf right now.”
Pray that as many different ways as you can come up with. With as many different wordings as come to your mind. Pray it often, regularly, and passionately. THEN you can know this… that even though you don’t know exactly what you are affirming as you pray… you KNOW (!) that your prayers ARE 100% in line with God’s will. The reason you know that is because The Spirit ALWAYS prays according to God’s perfect will.
“God, today… this day… right now… I affirm, support, and agree with the prayer Your Spirit is offering on my behalf. Please grant His request on my behalf because of the blood your Son shed on the cross. And as you answer His prayer may You and You along be glorified. In Jesus’ name… Amen.”