Don’t ever say you know what you’d do if you were in someone else’s shoes… you don’t. I’ve heard many people tell me what they’d do IF they were in my situation. I discounted them because their pride was only exceeded by their cold callousness to the nuances of my situation. Still, with that said I’d like to offer a few thoughts regarding how I’ve tried to think through and process the call to forgive.
Then there is the command given NOT to take revenge on anyone… for any reason… ever. Consider Rom 12:12 and following…
Be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. 14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. 17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. 19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” 20 To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.